I’ve been putting myself out there in the dating world and made another profile on Okcupid.
Guy #1. I’d been chatting with a guy named Mike on the instant messenger service…and we found out we only lived two blocks away from each other. We were both going to smoke, and he’s all “Let’s just smoke together. Come on, be adventurous.” My roommates were home, and he’s a small man (I could totally take him), so I said ok. I had no make up on, was in need of a shower, but he wasn’t one of those men…ya know, the type that make you completely nervous. He didn’t have many pictures of himself, the ones he did have were black and white. I get that, I have a bunch of angled pics to make myself look better, but I couldn’t really see him. He comes over and he’s really really sweet. He’s definitely a ‘good guy’. He cracked me up and we have a ton in common. Only thing wrong, I don’t find him attractive. I tried SO hard. But it just wasn’t there.
This is what I have written on my profile…
‘ I am looking for someone I can have a mental, emotional, and physical attraction with.
Sounds easy enough, right?
I always seem to end up getting two out of three.’
And again, it proves to be the case.
I’m not shallow, but I have to have chemistry with someone.
So he’s been messaging me and I don’t know how to tell him he isn’t my type without crushing him. :(
Guy #2. Intelligent, attractive, cool guy. It’s rare I find someone I can communicate with. This one is funny and smart, but a ‘lazy dater’. He says he’s been burned in the past and now is looking for friends to build a relationship with first. He wants to move slow and take his time. I completely understand that, but as a woman, it sounds like he doesn’t want to put in any work to ‘court’ a girl and make her feel special. He just wants something to fall in his lap. Good luck.
Guy #3. My favorite so far. His name is Curtis and I’m Very attracted to him.
I really like his style. He’s a guy’s guy, really cool, and completely unique. I really want to find out what makes him tick. Only he works. ALL the time. Which is good, but I need more attention than just one or two messages a day. But he asked me out for dinner and drinks tomorrow night, so hopefully I can crack the surface a bit. It’s the second real date I’ve been on other than my ex in two years. I’m nervous.
There’s slim pickings on Okcupid…so it’s hard not to get overly excited when you find a good one. And I get SUPER excited early on, then, as I get to know someone and see them for all they are, good and bad, my passion tends to calm.
I just wish I could find someone to make the butterflies last.